Bookee's Thots

1. Always put her first - before work, friends, even basketball. Act as if she's the best thing that ever happened to you, because we all know she is. ( Same goes for ladies ) 2. Keep no secrets. Pool your money. Allow nothing and no one to come between you. 3. Pick your fights with care. Play fair. Show some class. Hurtful words can be forgiven, but they are hard to forget. 4. Fall in love again every day. Kiss her in taxis. Flirt with her at parties. Tell her she is beautiful. Then tell her again. ( Hmmmmmmm ) 5. Never miss an anniversary or a birthday or a chance to make a memory. Memories may not seem important now, but one day they will be gold. ( Guys, note! ) 6. Never give her a practical gift. If she really wants a Shop-Vac, let her pick it out herself. ( I’m not to sure ‘bout this ). 7. Go to church together, and pray every day for each other and your marriage. 8. Pay your bills on time and make sure you each have a living will, a durab...

By Paul Casciato A British family law firm is urging couples to take a “compatibility quiz” before getting married or deciding to live together . Bross Bennett’s compatibility test focuses on key questions about finances, family ties, children and aspirations that most couples struggle with and might have to answer anyway if their marriage breaks down and they end up divorcing ( we don’t pray for this! ). Partner Ruth Bross compared taking the quiz to the kind of considerations and research an employer might make before hiring someone. “No one who is truly committed to a relationship will ever mind making the full and frank disclosure that is asked of them; if they do, you might like to ask yourself why,” she said in an emailed statement containing the quiz. The quiz asks about assets and how each party would like to share them, what kind of relationships they have with their extended family and friends, whether they want children, their religious views, spending hab...

I wrote this article ( http://bukolaajayi.blogspot.com/2011/03/is-marriage-really-scary-sos-call.html ) 2 days ago and promised to publish noteworthy comments I get from it so that 1 or 2 couples, presently going through marital hitches, can learn and probably prayerfully work on them. Well, here they are. I kind of highlighted some key points made, and I’m still waiting for more experienced couples to contribute…Help save a marriage. Excerpt: True Friend said: “Men will always have attitudes that irritate women. Do most of them ever listen? There will always be a loophole where a guy is lacking to his woman. One of my aunties went through a serious one. In her case, she wanted to leave her marriage because the guy has this nonchalant attitude towards things. He had no job then, she was trying to get the kids to a decent private school, use all her money to feed, maintain, and support her home. She had no savings. She later found out that when the guy gets little money ...

This thought has been on my mind for so long. Sure, it’s no news; people talk about it; I’ve seen some myself, so the talk about failed or failing marriages is not so new. What’s new to me however, is the fact that marriages that are just 2, 3 months are failing. It just so sad; and the truth? It scares me, really . Someone shared with me a sad story recently, about a couple who got married barely 3 months ago and are on verge of breaking up. According to the story, they are having serious issues that the wife threatened to poison the husband if the marriage isn’t dissolved. Though, I didn’t hear the end of the story; but I hope and pray they won’t separate. I find it hard to believe that people who once professed love to themselves suddenly come to hate themselves…. Hmmm, thin line it is indeed between hate and love. It then makes me wonder…if those that dated for so long – 2, 3, 5, even 10 years – could have problems; what do we make of those that dated for months – 3, 6, 9...

“If you give everything you own…and even go to the stake to be burned as a martyr, but you do not love, you have gotten nowhere. No matter what you say, what you believe, and what you do, you are bankrupt without love” Because I love you, I want you to know the meaning of my love and how deep it is. I want you to know that I am LOVE and I exude love and none can love you like I do, because my love is indescribable , unquantifiable , undeniable , and unconditional . Your money cannot buy my love. There is nothing you can do to make me love you less. Oh how much I love you. I have loved you before the world began and now that you are in the world, I still love you with an everlasting love. What or who shall separate you from my love? Tragedy cannot; misfortune cannot; tribulations cannot; no one can… And because I love you so so very much, I want you to love me back; and I want you to learn how to love – how to love yourself; your neighbours and me. I want you to know what ...

Recently, I came across (again) the following verses of the Holy book and I was overwhelmed by its genuineness and command. It reads: (How happy) Blessed is (the man) that fears (knows, respects, honours, serves) the LORD; that walks (listens to and obeys him) in His ways. For (he) shall eat the labour of (his) hands (be prosperous): happy (joyful, fulfilled) shall (he) be, it shall be well with (him). His wife shall be as a fruitful vine (spiritually, intellectually, biologically, physically, materially, financially, 'wisely', career-wise) by the sides of his house (giving moral, spiritual, intellectual, etc support to her husband): his children like olive plants (fulfilled, blessed and the best amongst equals) round about his table (he'll see them and see his grand/great children) - (Psalm 128: 1 -3) . This, I believe, is something all men (married or about to) should hold on to. A man who wants to be blessed and happy; who wants God to bless the work of his hands and ...

"... No matter what I say... I'm bankrupt without love." - 1 Corinthians 13:3 TM Awww… I smell Christmas already. And I’m sure we’re ready for the jollying and gifting. While there’ll be much to eat and drink, let’s not leave out the real meaning behind the season. Let’s show love to ALL around (and beyond); and let’s ensure we give those kinds of gifts that’ll especially cost us more. It costs God His ONLY son for us to have this season; so make this Christmas a one of its kind that when look back you’ll be happy you did what you did. I enjoyed this message and I’m sure you will too, so I’m sharing it with y’all – married and single. Enjoy. Former U.S. Education Secretary William Bennett attended a contemporary wedding where the bride and groom pledged in their vows to remain together, 'As long as love shall last.' Bennett said, 'I sent them paper plates as a wedding gift.' If you want to build a great marriage, one that will go the distance, you ...