Life is not fair at
times. Day-by-day, there’s one challenge or the other to deal with. We’ve been
wounded and we have caused pains for others; had to go through pains or hurts,
comfort others, and even wonder why we had to go through the pains we go
through. But I ask, do we have to stop laughing?
The past few weeks
have been rather eventful; there was the January fuel subsidy removal, hike in
prices of items and fares, subsidy-driven industrial action or strike,
non-salary payment, and so on. But do we have to stop spending?
There have been
issues of boko haram, bomb blasts, accidents, kidnappings, killings, rituals
and many of such; but do we have to stop being adventurous or stop travelling?
Many of us have
wanted some things so badly – indeed, they are things that we rightfully ought
to have or own. We even give ourselves time frame, and say to ourselves that if
we don’t get such things by the stipulated time, then that means life is just
so unfair to us. However, do we have to stop hoping?
We here stories
about deaths – timely and untimely; and there was Whitney Houston who gave her
all to her marriage but was instead taken for granted, lost her happiness (or
marriage) and recently passed at a young age.
Hmmm, do we have to stop living?
Indeed some of us
have had encounter with deceitful people – the wolves in sheep clothing, whose
demeanour do not quite match what they would have you believe they are. They
are the heart breakers and the ones who toy with people's emotions….but yet, do we
have to stop loving?
One of my dear
friends has often told me she would never allow high blood pressure in her
veins. To her, those pains, cheatings, violence, deaths, heart breaks, and as
many incidences that make life look unfair, are part of life, and you just must
be prepared for them.
Even in the Holy
Book, we were warned that life is full of tribulations and afflictions. But the
good news is that we were also told to be of good cheer because help will come,
victory is certain, no matter how bad the situation is. Assurance!
And I want to add
that while we yet go through the rigours of life, it will do us good to
surround ourselves with great people. People who wouldn’t hesitate to share our visions and
appreciate them; share our joys and celebrate them; share our pains and offer
comfort; share our cries and offer a shoulder; share our confusions and offer
the right counsel; share our hates and show love; share our lives and even be
with us when death comes calling….that’s the power of
relationship!
So do we have to stop
hoping, laughing, trusting, living or loving? No! Live, while you can; Love
freely, and allow yourself to be loved completely.
Love...keeps going to the end. 1 Corinthians 13:4-7
“In every relationship there are times when it seems it would be easier to quit than to hang in”
When Ed and Alice went for marriage counselling the therapist asked Alice, 'What first attracted you to Ed?' She replied, 'His strong, silent temperament.' The counsellor continued, 'So why do you want a divorce?' Alice answered, 'His strong, silent temperament!'
Sometimes what drew us together ends up a major irritant. In every relationship there are times when it seems it would be easier to quit than to hang in. But short of physical and emotional abuse, there are advantages to working through your issues. For example, there are:
1) Emotional benefits
Contrary to what Hollywood's culture would have us believe, divorced people are more likely to feel depressed due to loneliness. In fact, many say although there were disagreements in the relationship, they miss having somebody to come home to.
2) Health benefits
Emotional stress leads to physical problems, and being in a relationship, especially a good marriage, can be beneficial for your health. It's like having your own nurse or therapist.
3) Community benefits
What your kids see influences their future choices. Staying in your marriage teaches them how to work through relationship challenges. Couples with strong marriages are helping to build a nation of loving, responsible parents who can guide their children onto the right track. 'Love...keeps going to the end.'
Author Christy Scannell says, 'When [my husband and I] got married, we agreed it was for life...Weeks before our wedding we made a pact to work out whatever problems came our way...Yes, we fight. We accuse. We toss barbs...but we will NOT be moving out or filing papers...whatever happens we're staying.'
I get easily irritated at times, and funny the things that irritate me could be classed as trivial - that is, minor. The truth is, once I let them out you might view me as 'duh, why should those irritate you?' but they do anyway. It just goes to show that I'm a unique being *wink wink*.
Some months back I sat in a public bus on my way home, then I heard a guy, who sat behind me, make some sound with his mouth - teeth and tongue. The kind some people make when they are trying to remove a left over food or dirt from their teeth. The bad thing is, he didn't stop once, he made the sound till he alighted from the bus. Kai, I was pissed!
Still in the same bus, someone was listening to a sport commentary on his phone. He put the phone on speaker and on the highest volume, as if the rest of us were interested in the boring tale. I wonder how he forgot that earphones are made for moments such as those.... How I almost shouted at him. The odd thing was that he hissed at the comments he didn't agree with. *miffed*.
Yet another annoying character was that of a lady who was receiving a call in the same bus and was shouting at the top of her voice as if the person at the receiving end had some Tympanic membrane issues. I was very angry! I had just closed - feeling tired and stressed - and would have loved to ride home in quietness and peace; but I guess that would just not be. I kept my cool though, and pretended as if those things were not going on. This helped because before long, they didn't matter to me. I'd forgotten they were going on by the time I alighted from the bus.
Now this is a scenario of my typical work days. I close from work, seeking some quietness and an opportunity to meditate on my way home, but no - the opposite is what I get. Those are some of the things that put me off.
A big one is the issue of having to sleep around someone that snores. Hmmm. Big issue. A friend recently shared a principle with me that in case I marry someone that snores, rather than complain or nag - because they mostly don't change - I should learn how to snore too, that way we'll both be snoring, it won't be noise to me again, as I'd have gotten used to it.
Usually, I don't sleep a wink anytime I share a room with someone that snores; but one day I did. I was determined to sleep that day no matter how loud the noise. I told myself I won't listen to the noise. I didn't and was relieved the next day when I woke to realise that I slept soundly despite the snores.
Ok so, I have some of these things that irritate me - basically noise or noisy environment because I'm typically attracted to quietness. But now I can confidently say that I'm getting over them. I mean, I don't really count them as irritations as I used to. Mo ti n dagba (maturity is setting in - if you'd like. Lol). I have learnt to overlook some of these things, and guess what? I have peace!!! I now laugh at some of the things that were once irritation to me - though not all - but with time, I'll overcome all.
The point I'm making is, in relationships - marital, work, religious, etc - we deal with people, and since we do, they are bound to annoy us or do things that irritate us. Just as I get irritated by some people's habits; I'm sure some of my habits too irritate some people. It's vice-versa! Someone once told me she doesn't like how I pick on my food. I always look to see if I'll find some kind of dirt or something in my food. Once I find it, I'll bring it and talk and talk about it to the point that people eating beside me may get irritated. Oh, it's a bad habit I know, I know! That's not all, I have several others (I won't share it here); but I'll change (lol).
We all have some things we do that irritate others and things that irritate us in others. I'm getting over mine - gradually - with determination; and I'm letting go of those of mine too. Some marriages break up and some relationships are marred by these trivial irritations. If you don't believe, then watch KUWTK (Keeping Up with the Kardishians - a reality tv program) on E! (for those who have Dstv) every evening by 9pm.
Maybe we could share some of those things that irritate us in others, and how we have dealt with it or how we are coping with it. Someone may find your experience handy. You may even want to share some of your habits you know can irritate or annoy people - so that that prospective someone can watch out or so that you can get advice on how to tackle it.
What is that one thing You Would Sacrifice for Love?
What is that one thing you'd give up for love? Have you ever asked yourself this question? I have asked myself times without number, but the truth is I really couldn't answer that big question. For me, it's a true test of love; for me I think the meaning of love is hidden in that question.
The great book recorded that God's love goes beyond words; His love was expressed - backed up by action 'For God so love the world that He gave (sacrificed, gave up) His only begotten son...' He didn't give goat, neither did he give a cow; He gave a costly gift - the kind of gift that money cannot buy. He gave a part of Himself; He gave His confidant, friend, son and colleague (if I must say). It's costly. No wonder He couldn't stand to watch Him while He (the Son) went through the agony and pain. For me, that's real love.
Sometime last year, a popular radio station in Lagos aired a call-in talk show and the question 'what does love mean to you?' was asked. Several people called in to give their opinions/answers, but one caller's answer really got me. The caller said 'My husband is love. Despite knowing I am HIV positive; he married me all the same. Ten (10) years down the line, we are still happy and he still loves me the way he loved me when we first got married...' Oh wow, that was something. What kind of man is that? you may ask. What did she see in that woman that would make him marry her despite her HIV status? You may even argue that he isn't Nigerian...but he is. He is love...and he is love, and he is true love. Such men are so rare. Knowing well what the risks (stigma, possibility of being infected, not enjoying sex, an early widower, having to maintain the sick wife's health, etc) are; he went with it anyway.
A story was told of a young woman whose husband was diagnosed with a critical case of cancer. It was so terrible that he was deformed, couldn't walk, talk or eat normally. Family and friends adviced her to leave the man, who seemed not to be showing any signs of recovery, for other suitors, especially since age was on her side. She didn't give in to their advice - instead she loved the husband more and more; stood by him all through the period. Although the man finally died; but he died a happy man; he died knowing what true love really meant.
My mum shared a story of a born-again Christian sister who had to marry a staunch unbeliever for reasons best known to her. Years into their marriage, he still has not changed - messing around with other women, drinking and doing all sorts. One day a neighbour's wife came with a report that she was pregnant for this man; and guess what, this born-again sister offered not only to accept the baby, but also beg the woman's husband and take care of the said woman. This got the other woman so afraid that she ran away before giving birth. And according to the story, the born-again sister didn't love her husband less. She was still the same loving, caring wife. Apparently, her actions changed the husband till today. That is still love.
We have also heard of people give up their wealth, education, even forsake their family because of love.
I ask again, what is that one thing you'd sacrifice for love? What costly, priceless gift would you lay down for the one you love?
Please give answers + true life stories/experience; and while we're at it; think of that one person that's worth your costly gift and don't be afraid to extend it to him or her.
Love is beautiful - though it hurts sometimes - it is still worth 'owning'.
Many waters cannot quench love... Song of Solomon 8:7
I have my specifications, you have yours, but most times they don’t match what we get eventually. And because they don’t, we get angry and conclude God is not being fair.
Whatever will last the test of time doesn’t come in ‘Disney land’ packages. Most times, we get the opposite, if we are patient enough to try it out, we’ll see that God means well. I say: ‘Beauty will fade away, money will fly away, but true love not based on conditions, sex, looks, abilities, wealth, background or man-made specifications will is sure to stick with you even in the grave.
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“The concept of two people living together for twenty-five years or more without a serious dispute, suggests a lack of spirit only to be admired in sheep”
We smile at the cartoon of a husband saying to his wife, 'There you go again, quoting our marriage vows out of context!' Walter Lippmann said, 'The concept of two people living together for twenty-five years or more without a serious dispute, suggests a lack of spirit only to be admired in sheep.'
Marriage is God's idea, and it's a good one. But if you are looking for someone who can be everything, you'll be disappointed! When you marry someone you take on their weaknesses as well as their strengths. It's a package deal. By expecting perfection, you're asking for more than either of you are capable of giving. However, when you get into trouble you can count on your partner.
Marriage is having someone to curl up with when the world seems cold, who's as concerned as you are when the children are ill. It's having a hand that keeps checking your brow when you aren't well, and a shoulder to cry on when they lower a loved one into the ground.
“To the one you marry you're saying, 'When my time comes to leave this world, it's your face I want to kiss goodbye”
To the one you marry you're saying, 'When my time comes to leave this world, it's your face I want to kiss goodbye. It's your hand I want to hold as I slip into eternity. I want to look into your eyes and see that I mattered. Not what I looked like, or how much money I made, or even how talented I was. No, I want to look into the eyes of someone who loved me and see that I mattered!' If you've been too busy lately, or just forgetful, take a moment and let your spouse know how much you appreciate them.
This article blessed me, and I want it to bless you too…especially ladies. So I share. Enjoy and make comments please…
“Ladies, the way we carry ourselves is very crucial. It spells sexuality or sensuality. When a man walks past us, what runs through his mind? Is it “I want to sleep with her or I’d like to hold her in my life forever?” We exude aromas….”
‘I hate sex”! I blurted out to the bewilderment of my ‘D’ on that Friday night in the midst of our new friends. I had never seen my sweetness look so shocked, embarrassed and humiliated! I am known for my frankness and bluntness; but this was way out of line.......or was it? Was it really?! I didn’t understand why I couldn’t be enraptured away in the moment of sensuality and heightened passion. After all, I had waited and dreamt of ‘this out of this world experience’. I had even taught ladies about sexual matters...what in the world was going on with my body and ability to get it right? What more Lord? I wondered!
Babes, especially Christian chicks are caught in a dichotomy of the awesome embodiment of the concept of sexual experience. Sexuality connotes different things: sex, love making, f....!. How on earth can you use Sanctified with such a word?? A hot sizzling p....zy isn’t thinking sanctification? Really, you think so?? Are you sensual or sexual?! (Gist of another day).
Pillar One: No one has the right to go down there without owning the meter! That ‘meter’ is bought with a price. I once heard this: “ko si meter ni bee’ (means there is no meter in the vagina. SANCTIFIED SEXUALITY applies to everyone who desires to hold their temples in awe and sacredness unto the Lord and for their husband. A price that is absolutely priceless. It cannot be bought with money, gifts, trips abroad, diamonds, rubies, pearls, airtime (I mean, really, airtime?? Come on!) So chick, tell me what is your price? I hear some saying; “puleeaasee!! At least someone’s been down there and unlocked it. I am sure he is constantly servicing it...abeg make me sef enjoy the thing.” Hmnn...I WAITED NOT BECAUSE MY SEX TANK WAS DRY AND UNINTERESTED! GOD DID KEEP ME....I didn’t sleep with him. I asked for help and He helped me. I had my struggle with the kissing matter! Yes, we all struggle with something but we can and do overcome!!
MYTH: There are no virgins left on earth....just do it and get on with it.
Pillar Two: Ladies, the way we carry ourselves is very crucial. It spells sexuality or sensuality. When a man walks past us, what runs through his mind? Is it “I want to sleep with her or I’d like to hold her in my life forever?” We exude aromas...consciously or unconsciously. Our poises, the look, the walk, clothes, speech, pitch; everything speaks! It is called Considered-Dressing.”
MYTH: The experience of sex is only a copulating of genitals: penis and vagina.
“Sex is good; it’s better with the right person BUT best served at the right time...MARRIAGE! Full stop!”
Pillar Three: My friend calls our sex organs ‘THE ROD OF CORRECTION” and ‘WET TUNNEL’! I remember the first time I stepped out in my “birth suit’ into my wedding room....hmmm (gist). My body had been shaking....literally, expecting this day from the moment I had my first crush as a twelve year old pretty girl who was being chased by the HOTTEST boy on my street. (Yes o....holy sister B!!) Only grace can uphold your buckling knees in such situations. Scriptures says we are saved by grace. Sex is a big deal! I mean guys actually grow hard merely looking at a girl. I mean, how did the pregnant mad woman come about?.....rod entered tunnel na!
We hear and see the sex around and it feels like there is no reason to wait for the prince charming. Did someone hiss at the word WAIT?! Yes, wait I can hear a chick saying, “you who waited for 29 years for sex...cheap common sex, how did it benefit you? Big deal! Sex is for perverts. There is nothing godly about it. Once I have done it, it’s over.” On my wedding night, when I saw his “ROD OF CORRECTION” I almost passed out. Yee? God this is not what we discussed o....and you can imagine the drama..! Now I am loving it. (Lol)
Pillar Four: Our bodies are truly beautifully crafted. We are wrapped gifts. We are delicate and need to be unwrapped with skill and patience. Who told us that the first taste of the pudding determines the entire meal? Love making is a rare gift that is served on a platter that tastes differently for each of us. I daresay, our bodies are like wine that tastes better after each sip. Babe, why are you allowing the bar tender to sip away at you? He is not the owner of this bar. He cannot pay for the metre; talk less of this ageless wine.
Sex is good; it’s better with the right person BUT best served at the right time...MARRIAGE! Full stop!!
Listen, it is worth the wait. Salivating leads us into trouble. You say, “I cannot but salivate when this baddest looking bobo walks past with his cologne trailing my nostrils”. Babe, if he is yours, he’ll stop and properly converse with you. Dating is for discourse NOT intercourse. Our anatomy depicts our two legs representing the pillars that keep the wrong man away. Close your legs. With buckling knees, stand up tall and walk past with your head high. Why settle for the bar tender who is trying to bribe his way into the tunnel when the real owner is a knock away?
Sex is awesome! I didn’t find out on the first night...but after a few rampages with my D....wow!!! I make my demands now o.....I tell him, you can’t be tired. When he is sweating and tired.....omo.....I just start o! This calabar woman needs to “WORSHIP with her body.” The myth that tells us to taste the pudding before the meal starts so we’d know whether or not it is sweet does not hold true.
What if you’ve been sexually active?
Yes, I hear you say you have been sexually active since you can remember and you don’t see a way out.
1. Place value on your body. A rumpled N1000 is still worth every kobo of One Thousand Naira. The point is will you allow this N1000 be torn, used and thrown away? What are you saying to yourself? Babe, what is your worth??
2. Can you be “naked but not ashamed” before another “sister whose got your back”? Can you be accountable to another?
3. Trust God! God has your back and can hold you from going back to “his” bed. God is still in the business of keeping our bodies sanctified.
According to D (Daniel’s writing)
* Confidence: I believe guys are attracted to confident ladies – Confidence comes from preparation; knowing who you are in God - being aware of your distinctive assets: looks, how you speak, boldness, kindness, etc. These assets make you stand out and irresistible. Men naturally gravitate towards the confident woman. Your asset is your swagger!
* Truthfulness and Sincerity: Guys tend to suspect chicks. No matter how holy or sanctified you are, he is expecting to see an element of falsehood. Your catch is speak the truth, live the truth and be sincere even when it hurts you. No man wants to lose such babes.
* She knows what she wants and does not need anyone to validate her person – Nothing is as attractive as a babe who knows what she wants in any situation; especially when she communicates this with a sense of assertiveness and not arrogance.
* Guys desire a woman that can say NO! .....This is the mother of all attractions. When a chick says no to a brother, it makes him want to push further. This stirs up his hunting instincts.
* State your turn on – Those in relationship should be honest enough with their partners to let them know what turns them on, so that he learns not to touch you in those places. For some, a mere touching of the feet by the opposite sex drives them crazy! What’s your turn on? We are not talking second or third base here (those are out of bounds!!!) that kind of info is for your husband; lest you be taken advantage of.
My dear sisters, you’ve heard it. The lady who desires to walk in sanctification should pay attention to these things. Keep the guys waiting for the unravelling of the mystery of your temple (your body and the wet tunnel). Look forward to the ‘solid rock’ when he gives you the bling bling...rings (wedding not only engagement ring). Omo, no ringie, no dingie o! Hebrews 13 v 4!!!!!
Wow...it's been like since forever that I posted something on this blog; anyway, it's just been 2 terrific months. Terrific because it's been beautiful - I had the most amazing birthday ever... in may; and it's also been....you know. Well, I'm not complaining. I, in fact, have every reason to say thank You God.
Enough of me already...Back to the business of the day.
Now marriage is an agreement between 2 people. But some believe there is more to it. I have heard of contract marriages/relationships; and I've seen 1 couple practice it, but really, I've neither come across what the terms of agreement actually look like nor do I know what the people involved feel for each other. Now, contract marriage is not totally western; some Nigerians practice it (I know one). However, I'm a bit curious: was it love that brought them together in the first place? If not, will they eventually fall in love? If not, how will the contract end?
Well the focus here is on the terms - spelt out and written down.
One of my nerdy friends sent me an example of how some terms of agreements look like. She got it off a blog authored by Kelvin Igbodo (a Nigerian blogger). Find the written terms below.
I need comments please. Let's hear what you think about it; would you practice such? If not, what do you have against it? ------------------------------------------------------------------------------------
The dating rules
It is common knowledge that the most ignored part of most negotiations is the 'Terms of Agreements', especially if it is almost 10 pages long (which is mostly the case). Many partnerships have failed, businesses have crashed and people have felt cheated all because they didn't have the patience to read through 10 paged small print of legal jargon.
Every business, transaction or interaction between two people normally has terms that bind the parties involved once they agree.
So I was thinking, it won't be a bad idea to have a terms-of-agreement for dating, signed by both parties before they embark on the relationship. Remember that verbal agreements hold no water so this will be typed out and signed by both parties.
Feel free to download and use after reading.
DATING TERMS OF AGREEMENT BETWEEN _________ and ___________ dated this _____ day of______ 2___
His part:
1. I am the man in this relationship, whether I wear pants, boxers or G-string, I am still the man and should be treated as such.
2. I shall NOT be compared to any other man living or dead, especially your ex.
3. I am your boyfriend NOT your father, so he is responsible for bringing you up and maintaining you. I am responsible for bringing 'me' up and maintaining yours.
4. I love you BUT I love my boys too so do NOT interrupt when you see me with them, it falls hand.
5. Never ask me where I am at 10pm, I will lie or talk nonsense.
6. You see me with any girl, let your default thought be "oh wow! A new sister"
7. Do NOT discuss our sex life (if existent) with your friends except you're suggesting a threesome
8. Movies, recharge cards, lunch and all that fun shall last 3 weeks into the relationship; after that we will buy N150 DVD, make our own chicken, etc
9. You will NOT move more than 4 articles of clothing to my room/house.
10. In the event of arguments, do NOT smash any of my plates or ornaments. Walahi, you will pay for them o!
11. Because I have a car doesn't make me YOUR driver, and the front seat isn't your right, get over yourself!
12. You cannot have more than 10 male BBM contacts, 5 must be from your family, 4 from your church, then I.
13. Don't EVER be fooled, girls DON'T run the world! Except the world is a synonym for kitchen.
14. We are dating. This is NOT marriage; we will NEVER wear the same cloth material.
15. Money will be given to you as I deem necessary, I do NOT work in a bank; even if I do, it is my money.
16. If u want to give me a nickname, names like Stud, The Rock, ChuckNorris etc are cool, NEVER! I repeat NEVER call me your TeleTubby or ChubbyWobby...
17. If by mistake you ever catch me on top of or underneath another woman, don't break the flow, wait till I'm done then verbally attack.
Her part:
1. I am the Woman, I am NOT weak in sex or any other thing, don't make me prove it.
2. In every argument, I have the LAST word, whatever else you say will start a new one apart from 'Yes Dear!'
3. Whatever you did while toasting me, you better make sure you continue because face it, there are others waiting to get on this bus!
4. I will cook when I'm hungry, you will buy us take-away when you are hungry.
5. If/when I come to your house for the weekend, the remote is mine and we will 'do' if I feel like 'doing'
6. Bags, BIS, Brazilian hair, etc, are your responsibility...prove you can take care of me.
7. NEVER take any of my friends out
8. In the club, you dance with only me or any of my ugly, harmless friends I send your way cos I wanna grind some hot guy.
9. When I ask you 'how I look?" Any answer apart from "beautiful" might make you lose me
10. I'm a late comer, NEVER on time.
11. If you do NOT use my/our picture on your BBM DP at least 4 times in a week, it’s over!
12. What is yours is mine, what is mine is mine!
13. If you invite your friends over without telling me, prepare to attend to them.
I have read and hereby agree to these terms of agreement...bla bla bla...
1. Always put her first - before work, friends, even basketball. Act as if she's the best thing that ever happened to you, because we all know she is. (Same goes for ladies)
2. Keep no secrets. Pool your money. Allow nothing and no one to come between you.
3. Pick your fights with care. Play fair. Show some class. Hurtful words can be forgiven, but they are hard to forget.
4. Fall in love again every day. Kiss her in taxis. Flirt with her at parties. Tell her she is beautiful. Then tell her again. (Hmmmmmmm)
5. Never miss an anniversary or a birthday or a chance to make a memory. Memories may not seem important now, but one day they will be gold. (Guys, note!)
6.Never give her a practical gift. If she really wants a Shop-Vac, let her pick it out herself. (I’m not to sure ‘bout this).
7. Go to church together, and pray every day for each other and your marriage.
8. Pay your bills on time and make sure you each have a living will, a durable power of attorney and life insurance, lest, God forbid, you need them.
9. Love her parents as your own, but do not ask them for money. Never criticise her family or friends. On her birthday, send flowers to her mother with a note saying, "Thank you for giving birth to the love of my life."
10. Always listen to her heart; if you are wrong, say you are sorry; if you are right, and shut up. (Same goes for ladies)
11. Do not half-tie the knot; plan to stay married forever. (Hmmm… No Contract!)
12. Never go to bed mad; talk until you are over it, or you forget why you were mad.
13. Laugh together a lot. If you can laugh at yourselves, you will have plenty to laugh about.
14. Never criticise, correct or interrupt her in public; try not to do it in private either.
15. Remember that people are the least lovable when they are most in need of love.
16. Never fall for the myth of perfectionism; it's a lie.
17. When you don't like each other, remember that you love each other; pray for the "good days" to return and they will.
18. Tell the truth, only the truth, with great kindness.
19. Kiss at least 10 seconds a day, all at once or spread out. (I didn’t read this…lol)
20. Memorise all her favourite things and amaze her with how very well you know her.
21. Examine your relationship as often as you change the oil in your car; keep steering it on a path you both want it to go. (Interesting)
22. Be content with what you have materially, honest about where you are emotionally, and never stop growing spiritually. (Essential!)
23. Never raise your voice unless you are on fire. Whisper when you argue. (Useful tip)
24. Be both friends and lovers; in a blackout, light a candle, then make your own sparks. (Hmmm. Like this part)
25. Finally, be an interesting person, lead your own life. But always save your best for each other. In the end, you will know you were better together than you ever could've been apart.
Shared/ submitted by my naughtiest and best friend. I hope she won’t read this part…*wink*
