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Make Your Marriage Work

"... No matter what I say... I'm bankrupt without love." - 1 Corinthians 13:3 TMAwww… I smell Christmas already. And I’m sure we’re ready for the jollying and gifting. While there’ll be much to eat and drink, let’s not leave out the real meaning behind the season. Let’s show love to ALL around (and beyond); and let’s ensure we give those kinds of gifts that’ll especially cost us more. It costs God His ONLY son for us to have this season; so make this Christmas a one of its kind that when look back you’ll be happy you did what you did.I enjoyed this message and I’m sure you will too, so I’m sharing it with y’all – married and single. Enjoy.
Former U.S. Education Secretary William Bennett attended a contemporary wedding where the bride and groom pledged in their vows to remain together, 'As long as love shall last.' Bennett said, 'I sent them paper plates as a wedding gift.' If you want to build a great marriage, one that will go the distance, you must conce…

He Wants All of Her…

As the phone rang, Ruth already knew who the caller was so she ignored it. This time she was determined to end the relationship forever. There is no going back. Even though it hurts; even though she loved Tolani so very much, she just had to let go.

It’s just 2 weeks to her wedding with Tolani…the invitation is out and they’ve already done the introduction, but she couldn’t take it anymore. The wedding just could not hold…As she thought of this, tears began to stream down her eyes. She remembered how she met Tolani. Oh, such a handsome young man he is. Even though he is quiet, he’s in every way a charmer. On a certain day, it was visiting hours at the ‘C’ block girls’ hostel of the University of Ilorin, and Tolani was there to visit a jambite that came newly to his fellowship the previous night. He and another lady from his fellowship entered the block and were trying to locate the jambite’s room – apparently, the jambite didn’t fill the correct room number since she was new – so they…

Emotional Cheating - Unfaithful in Love

Kate met James when she joined a new Accounting Firm two years ago, James was her supervisor and the first time they met, he actually struck her as a bit shy and withdrawn. But a few months into their working relationship, something changed.James started warming up to her with special attention; she warmed up to him too. Soon their conversations turned from work related issues to easy banter about everything personal and later it became flirtation. They shared many similar things in common, and they soon became inseparable.She convinced herself that she wasn’t doing anything wrong; after all they were not having sex. And couldn’t she have a friend who happened to be male? She also told her husband about him, even sharing when they would meet for lunch. Her husband, who is very busy with a demanding job and hardly spends enough time at home, trusted her completely and didn’t raise an eyebrow.In the midst of working full time and caring for her two children, e-mailing and talking with J…

Trading Places?

"... a good wife... is worth more than rubies." - Proverbs 31:10 NCVDo you have any idea how hard your wife works to be a good mother?
Imagine this: Six dads are dropped on a desert island with one car and three kids each for six weeks. Each child will play two sports and take music or dance lessons. There's no fast food, and every man has to correct homework, help with science projects, cook meals, do laundry, budget for groceries, pay the bills without enough money, know the birthdays of friends and relatives and send cards. In addition, he has to take each kid for haircuts and to doctor and dentist appointments, bake cakes for school functions, plant flowers, and keep his home presentable at all times. He can only watch TV after the kids are in bed and his chores are done, and then he must have enough energy to be intimate with his spouse at a moment's notice. He should be well-groomed, go to church at least once a week, read to his kids, pray with them every night…

I’m Tired of Waiting …

Are you single and seriously searching? You’ve fasted, prayed, searched, and waited – now you’re frustrated because no suitor is coming. Almost all your mates, friends, colleagues and family members your mates or younger are married. People, including relatives, keep asking you when your turn is. They console you with words such as ‘it is your turn next’; ‘On your own day, the whole world will know my sister is getting married’; ‘Your time is coming soon’; etc.

Don’t be frustrated; God has not forgotten you. I repeat, God has not forgotten you! For the lady, your husband is still in a ‘deep sleep’ (Genesis 2:21) so that he can finish the work on you; and he’ll wake up soon to see the bone of his bones and flesh of his flesh; for the man, your wife is going through some process of purification and refining (Esther 2:9; 12-14). And by the time your partner will be unveiled, you’ll be glad you waited. Read this Excerpt from The Word for Today (Bob Gass).
What if you're single, looking …

Wife Beating: Ill-treatment or Discipline?

Since October began, it's been one wedding ceremony to the other; first it was Tayo and Kunle (my platoon members and fellowship members in Imo (NYSC)); then it was Desola and Emmanuel (one of them is my church member). I pray God will bless and keep both unions.

Now to the question of the day: Is wife beating right or wrong? I want y'all to be the judge. Is it acceptable to beat ones wife no matter what she has done? Is it an act of discipline or an act of ridicule?
Throughout history unlucky women have been subjected to the whims and brutality of their husbands. The colloquial phrase "rule of thumb" is supposedly derived from the ancient right of a husband to discipline his wife with a rod "no thicker than his thumb." Some religion even permit it - while browsing through the internet, I found many articles on how to beat your wife (; and …

...For Mama

I feel since this blog is about relationships, writing about my family, friends, colleagues, etc...and expressing my love for them wouldn't be a crime. 

Here's a poem for mama, who'll be a year older tomorrow (15th, September).

And this poem is dedicated to all the mamas in the world...with love.


Dearest Mama,

I just write to let you know
What's on my mind
Bringing me to the world with groans
I can imagine what it's like

For the seeds of love you've sown
You're one of a kind
For the toughest times you've known
It's fresh in my mind

For the times I don't listen to you
You love me still
And the times that I trouble you
You keep loving me

Oh! and the times that I fell sick
You knew no sleep
Or the times that I weep
You weep and weep

And those times that I'm lost
You are on your feet
Even at times of failures
You believe in me
For all my mistakes
You have an answer
And all my pains
You fi…

Valuing Others

"... love your neighbour...” - Mark 12:31 NKJV “By truly valuing others... you believe in them before they believe in you, serve them before they serve you, love them before they love you, and give to them without expecting anything in return”
There are two things we should never do.: First, to expect to feel fully at home in this world, because '... we are citizens of heaven... ' (Philippians 3:20 NLT), and second, to become so heavenly minded that we are no earthly use. The 'salt' and 'light' principles Jesus taught call for us to influence and illuminate others for good and for God. That means taking responsibility to do things better at home, on the job, and in all our dealings. If the only people you show genuine care for are in your church, your salt isn't flavouring and your light isn't dispelling darkness.

Christ's command to 'Love your neighbour' includes the less-than-lovable. And you only love others when you add value to their…

Small Misunderstandings, Great Consequences

A friend sent me this touching story, and I've decided to share. Though it's lengthy, it's full of lessons. Please take your time to read and grasp the morals of the story. Thanks.


Just two years after our marriage, hubby brought up the idea of asking Mother to move from the rural hometown and spend her remaining years with us. Hubby's father passed away while he was still very young. Mother endured much hardship and struggled all on her own to provide for him, see him through to a university degree. You could say that she suffered a great deal and did everything you could expect of a woman to bring hubby to where he is today. I immediately agreed and started packing the spare room, which has a balcony facing the South to let her enjoy the sunshine and plant greenery. Hubby stood in the bright room, and suddenly just picked me up and started spinning round and round. As I begged him t…