Things That Irritate Me
I get easily irritated at times, and funny the things that irritate me could be classed as trivial - that is, minor. The truth is, once I let them out you might view me as 'duh, why should those irritate you?' but they do anyway. It just goes to show that I'm a unique being *wink wink*.
Some months back I sat in a public bus on my way home, then I heard a guy, who sat behind me, make some sound with his mouth - teeth and tongue. The kind some people make when they are trying to remove a left over food or dirt from their teeth. The bad thing is, he didn't stop once, he made the sound till he alighted from the bus. Kai, I was pissed!
Still in the same bus, someone was listening to a sport commentary on his phone. He put the phone on speaker and on the highest volume, as if the rest of us were interested in the boring tale. I wonder how he forgot that earphones are made for moments such as those.... How I almost shouted at him. The odd thing was that he hissed at the comments he didn't agree with. *miffed*.
Yet another annoying character was that of a lady who was receiving a call in the same bus and was shouting at the top of her voice as if the person at the receiving end had some Tympanic membrane issues. I was very angry! I had just closed - feeling tired and stressed - and would have loved to ride home in quietness and peace; but I guess that would just not be. I kept my cool though, and pretended as if those things were not going on. This helped because before long, they didn't matter to me. I'd forgotten they were going on by the time I alighted from the bus.
Now this is a scenario of my typical work days. I close from work, seeking some quietness and an opportunity to meditate on my way home, but no - the opposite is what I get. Those are some of the things that put me off.
A big one is the issue of having to sleep around someone that snores. Hmmm. Big issue. A friend recently shared a principle with me that in case I marry someone that snores, rather than complain or nag - because they mostly don't change - I should learn how to snore too, that way we'll both be snoring, it won't be noise to me again, as I'd have gotten used to it.
Usually, I don't sleep a wink anytime I share a room with someone that snores; but one day I did. I was determined to sleep that day no matter how loud the noise. I told myself I won't listen to the noise. I didn't and was relieved the next day when I woke to realise that I slept soundly despite the snores.
Ok so, I have some of these things that irritate me - basically noise or noisy environment because I'm typically attracted to quietness. But now I can confidently say that I'm getting over them. I mean, I don't really count them as irritations as I used to. Mo ti n dagba (maturity is setting in - if you'd like. Lol). I have learnt to overlook some of these things, and guess what? I have peace!!! I now laugh at some of the things that were once irritation to me - though not all - but with time, I'll overcome all.
The point I'm making is, in relationships - marital, work, religious, etc - we deal with people, and since we do, they are bound to annoy us or do things that irritate us. Just as I get irritated by some people's habits; I'm sure some of my habits too irritate some people. It's vice-versa! Someone once told me she doesn't like how I pick on my food. I always look to see if I'll find some kind of dirt or something in my food. Once I find it, I'll bring it and talk and talk about it to the point that people eating beside me may get irritated. Oh, it's a bad habit I know, I know! That's not all, I have several others (I won't share it here); but I'll change (lol).
We all have some things we do that irritate others and things that irritate us in others. I'm getting over mine - gradually - with determination; and I'm letting go of those of mine too. Some marriages break up and some relationships are marred by these trivial irritations. If you don't believe, then watch KUWTK (Keeping Up with the Kardishians - a reality tv program) on E! (for those who have Dstv) every evening by 9pm.
Maybe we could share some of those things that irritate us in others, and how we have dealt with it or how we are coping with it. Someone may find your experience handy. You may even want to share some of your habits you know can irritate or annoy people - so that that prospective someone can watch out or so that you can get advice on how to tackle it.