Are You Wrong?

It's been a while now...I've been so busy and I miss blogging.

How are you all?

Here's an interesting piece for my friends who will soon tie the knot...Tayo Ponmile, Toyin Lawal, my cousin - Jamiu Hassan,...and my married friends /Cousin - Wunmi (Ogundele) Mokikan, Bukky (Owoyele) Abraham, Yinka (Adulami) Paul, Michael Gomina, Tolu (Ihimodu) Fakayode, Bola (Oyelohunnu) Leo and so on. And to me, and some of my friends who are not tying the knot yet...

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…then, make things right

Throughout your marriage, you will make mistakes. Although small mistakes will not initially hurt your marriage, if you do not acknowledge your mistakes, or you become defensive or justify your mistakes, those behaviours will create hostility and a lack of trust between you and your spouse.

It doesn't make any difference if you've made an insignificant mistake or a serious mistake, you need to take ownership of the mistake, admit to it, apologise for it, fix it, and not repeat it.

  • Assume Responsibility. Tell the truth if you've made a mistake. Don't put the blame on anyone or anything else. Don't try to hide your mistake or pretend it didn't happen.
  • Accept Consequences of Your Mistake. Realise that your spouse may be annoyed or upset with you, but being honest about making the mistake will help defuse your spouse's anger.
  • Make Things Right. Fix it, clean it up, do what it takes to correct the mistake. Although you can't change the past, you can avoid making the same mistake in the future. Learn from your mistakes.
  • Ask for Forgiveness. Be sincere and honest and don't play games. Say "please forgive me." Saying you are sorry isn't enough. Don't expect your spouse to just get over it immediately. Forgive yourself, too.

Quotes About Making Mistakes

John C. Maxwell: "A man must be big enough to admit his mistakes, smart enough to profit from them, and strong enough to correct them."
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Swami Sivananda: “Do not brood over your past mistakes and failures as this will only fill your mind with grief, regret and depression. Do not repeat them in the future.”
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Confucius: "A man who has committed a mistake and doesn't correct it is committing another mistake."
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Hugh White: "When you make a mistake, don't look back at it long. Take the reason of the thing into your mind and then look forward. Mistakes are lessons of wisdom. The past cannot be changed. The future is yet in your power."
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Nikki Giovanni: "Mistakes are a fact of life. It is the response to error that counts."
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