Bookee's Thots

One thrilling event in life is the wedding ceremony, because that’s the one you get to plan and handle yourself. It’s often filled with the ohs, ahs, and wow moments. It’s an event of colour, emotions, dreams, and it comes with such unforgettable memories. Whether it lasts or not. But what happens after then? Then comes the moment of reality! This moment thrills the most; it’s when it dawns on you that there is no other soul around except the two of you – as Will Smith sang, ‘Just the Two of Us’. Hmmm. This moment is deeper than the colour-defined weddings or the ohs and ahs. From the first night, it’s just the two of you, in your own world, embracing your lives whether good or bad; sweet or bitter; pleasant or not. And oh, it’s a journey of possibly no return (except in the case of death which we usually do not pray for). Even if you get divorced, it’ll still leave a mark; a mark that you were once married to a particular person – so it’s a journey of no return to being si...

I felt alienated when I shared a lift with 2 white kids at Atlantis Hotel in Palm Jumeira, Dubai recently. The kids almost collapsed in the lift just because I'm black...such poor understanding. But I see a lot of them on regular basis these days- at events, at my office - and they're not afraid to relate with me nor do they treat me as an alien. Oh, you'd say, it's because they're in my country. Well, maybe, but there are a few good ones who do not even care whether you're black or white. They'd love you all the same. My status on Facebook read 'What is wrong with being black?' and I received some comments - ones that I agree with and ones that I do not totally support. There's something we call convention in Linguistics, and it simply means that there is nothing in a name that makes what the name represent what it is. Big, huh? Let me disambiguate. There is nothing in a football, for example, that makes it a football or that make us give it t...

Written by Debby Herbenick You go out, you like each other, then you blow it by attempting to change your relationship status too soon. A resident love doctor explains how soon is too soon, and what other freaky behavior might ruin your good thing. One week is way too soon to add the "in a relationship with" phrase that is simultaneously coveted and feared by Facebook users everywhere. So is one month unless you're already uber-committed in some love story kind of way. But that doesn't mean you have to play it so cool that you look like you're out on the Facebook prowl while spending your nights on date after date (or video chat after video chat). If you find someone you can't resist, why not remove your "single" status? Or remove the Interested in men/women/men&women listing so that it doesn't appear to others that you're interested and available. And definitely switch out "what you're looking for" away fro...

When I was in the secondary school, we had a name for Valentine's day and it was 'Money-to, Money-to'. Only God knows how the name came to be or what triggered it. All I know is that whenever Valentine's day approached, we were quick to find a 'Money-to' partner or a Val partner, whom we will exchange gifts with on the day (despite being a girls only school). It was, however, fun for us back then as we looked forward to who our Vals will be (because names were written in papers and folded for us to pick) and we looked for what our 'mysterious' gifts will be like. But that was it. The gifts! No attachments, feelings or any extras. And bingo! Val was over and it's also over between you and your mysterious Val partner. But hey, come to think of it. If our Val's day in school was tagged 'Money-to', anybody could infer that money is somehow attached to the day and the day somehow attached to money (you know, for us back then). To us, V...

What is love? Check out the quotes below…. "One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life: That word is love." - Sophocles "Attention is the most basic form of love; through it we bless and are blessed." - John Tarrant "We love because it's the only true adventure." - Nikki Giovanni "Love is like quicksilver in the hand. Leave the fingers open and it stays. Clutch it, and it darts away." - Dorothy Parker "Love is friendship set on fire." - Unknown "Love is an ideal thing, marriage a real thing." - Goethe "To be in love is merely to be in a state of perceptual anaesthesia." - H.L. Mencken "Love is everything it's cracked up to be. That's why people are so cynical about it...It really is worth fighting for, risking everything for. And the trouble is, if you don't risk everything, you risk even more." - Erica Jong "Sometim...

I recently had 'What is life without Love?' as my status on Facebook and guess the responses I got. Someone wrote it's like tea without sugar, another wrote it's like a sounding cymbal, again another asked if I know anything about love, etc...but the one that struck is that from someone who wrote it's freedom from jealousy, hatred, lies, disappointment and so on. I was like...this is serious! But really, what is life without love? Can we survive a day without love? Can we live, move, talk, see, laugh, cry, hate, think, write, love, forgive, give, abuse, friend, drink, eat, sit, stand. marry...without love. Let's think deeply! When someone you love offends you, you get very bitter and disappointed. You accept to eat somebody's food just for the love you have for them. You can't afford to loose your mum...and you (think) you live for your children. It takes love to stand up for someone when he/she is cheated You love your country so much you can't bear...

Here's wishing everyone a very merry Christmas...With all my love. May this season bring us good tidings, joy, laughter, and most importantly love undeniable. Accept these little gifts... 1. I have carefully selected the goats, and 3 are for you because you're special... 2. Because I love you, I also sent a tree along with gifts that you'll treasure 3. Here's a deal for the 'GBESEs' (debt)...lol 4. ...this will add colour to you... 5. Have a very peaceful MERRY CHRISTMAS. Kisses***