Bookee's Thots

Th at Light Will Shine (again)! I remember asking certain rhetorical questions when there were no suitors coming; I'd ask myself: 'What it would feel like to get married' 'What my wedding day would look like' 'What it would feel like to get pregnant or carry a pregnancy' (I remember, I once asked myself) 'if I would even ever be married or be pregnant or experience what it feels like to breastfeed a child' You see, all those questions were answered, even though I asked them within myself, with no one but God to provide the answers. As a matter of fact, they were answered physically, publicly (not privately)! I woke up this morning asking myself yet again certain questions, and God chose the time to remind me of the questions above and the time I asked them. He reminded me of how I thought I was just asking myself rhetorical questions,  when indeed there would be answers and there would be someone to answer them (HIM)!  Then sudd...

The stories are based on SOS 1:14: My beloved is to me a cluster of henna blooms in the vineyards of En Gedi Dressed in a new mustard-yellow knee length dress with a matching belt by the waist, I check myself in the mirror again for the umpteenth time. I decided to let my lustre hair down for the first time in months – it’s full and shoulder length with a glow. I had permed it the day before; I didn’t need an attachment because my hair is long enough. Turning around in front of the mirror, with my dress twirling round me, I just want to be sure I look breath-taking enough for Dennis, my very handsome Dennis.  Dennis had invited me for their end of year party at the office and this time he won’t take a ‘no’ for an answer. Ever since we started our courtship 3 months ago, he had wanted to introduce me to his boss, who supposedly wanted to meet her best staff’s fiancée, but I just couldn’t go. I didn’t see the need to, or better still, I didn’t think I was ready to meet...

Hmmm, whatever happened to the fluttery butterflies sensation your stomach? The one you had when you were. Now that you are married, it's no longer jittery! Suddenly, the butterflies stopped flying! Could it be that someone cut their wings? Could you be that someone?                                                credit: huffingtonpost.com Whatever happened to that touch - that magical touch that sends butterflies down your stomach? Ah, it just feels like a mere touch now. No sparkle. No magic. No butterflies in the stomach! Marriage is serious work! Hard work. Real work. It’s surprising how the first few weeks of marriage is beautiful and sweet. And then suddenly things start to get awry because, we soon forget that we need to put as much (even more) energy, attention and time that we put on other things and people on our marriage. Sadly...

  (NKJV)Genesis 29:9-10 Now while he was still speaking with them, Rachel came with her father's sheep, for she was a shepherdess. [10] And it came to pass, when Jacob saw Rachel the daughter of Laban his mother's brother, and the sheep of Laban his mother's brother, that Jacob went near and rolled the stone from the well's mouth, and watered the flock of Laban his mother's brother. (MSG)Genesis 29:9-10 While Jacob was in conversation with them, Rachel came up with her father's sheep. She was the shepherd. The moment Jacob spotted Rachel, daughter of Laban his mother's brother, saw her arriving with his uncle Laban's sheep, he went and single-handedly rolled the stone from the mouth of the well and watered the sheep of his uncle Laban. Dear Sis , Please see some salient points from this story:   1. Every Man’s Woman : Rachael here was described as the shepherd or shepherdess... This kind of work was, and still is, common to men. B...

Rebecca is one bundle of great lessons. God didn’t just choose her to birth a mighty, strong and undefeatable nation; God saw in her rare virtues that weren’t common in their days (and in our days). Let’s take a look at the life of this virtuous woman from Genesis 24:   1. Rebekah…CAME OUT with her pitcher on her shoulder (Vs.15) : this great woman came out or went out to work; she was hardworking and would not have her maids do the dirty work (vs. 61) and would not delegate. She would work all by herself irrespective of her status, background, and wealth (Gen 24:61). She was not ashamed to work or flaunt her work tool (her pitcher on her shoulder); she would not sit idle at home when others are working on the field.   2. Now the young woman was very BEAUTIFUL TO BEHOLD (Vs 16a) : she was a woman of class and beauty. She was good looking; well dressed; she was presentable and good to associate with. 3. A VIRGIN ; no man had known her (Vs.16b) : she wasn’t just...

I recently did a post on 'The Bilingual Child and Grammar' ( see here ), because I noticed grammar is gradually loosing it's grip as a result of bilingualism. So I was glad when my friend, Olutayo Irantiola, invited my family and some of our friends, to his quarterly cultural showpiece 'Yoruba Lakotun' at Ethnic Heritage Centre in Ikoyi, in September. It was a family outing for us in a way - my family saw it as an opportunity to unwind. But in another way, it was a means of embracing our 'slipping' culture again. And even better, we thought our child could start getting familiar with his culture (at an early age). We, as well as other guests, didn't regret honouring the invitation.  The programme was colourful and rich - there was the 'ewi' (chant) session, interview of a Yoruba scholar and writer, dance, entertainment, refreshment and more. It was so beautiful, and all for FREE. See video here . Another one of such programme is here agai...

David Folowo is a Nigerian, married to an Irish woman, and together they have a son. But being married to a white woman, living in a white man's land, or learning the Irish culture will not make David forget his culture so easily. He loves the Nigerian way of life and would not hesitate to teach his wife how to be a Nigerian. No wonder David had his son backed as a way of teaching the wife how it's done in his part of the world (see picture). Now, that is a real man!                                                                                                            David and Dara                                     ...

 source:shutterstock.com Hahahaha, I got you there. This isn't what you're thinking at all. C'mon, I still have my dig....'witty' :D. But hey, before you hit the close button, read this... How often do you have a heart to heart, real talk with your partner? When you're offended by your partner's action, do you bottle it up till you die of cancer or heart attack; do you tell it to someone who in turn tells it to someone who tells it to another someone till you become an object of ridicule; or do you genuinely discuss it with your partner without being judgmental? It's up to you to answer the questions. We've all heard the saying that communication goes a long way in building relationships. But it doesn't hurt to emphasise and re-emphasise it.  Again I'll say communicate, communicate, and communicate with your partner. Don't just get naked on the bed, get naked while sitting together holding hands, with your heart and words. ...

It's refreshing to see new artistes pop up, and Grace Adenekan is one of such. Popularly called Akorin, Grace is out with her debut gospel album and video tagged 'Bigger than the Biggest'.     According to an official statement, Grace Adenekan has been a gospel artiste for many years. She started as a youngster in the church choir and has since followed her passion by proclaiming the gospel through music.  Set for launch on the November 1, 2015 at the Centre for Management Development Hall, Magodo, Lagos, the album has 8 tracks, and has been produced in partnership with her husband, Kehinde Adenekan, who composed and co-arranged the songs with Segun Joshua. Akin Jazzy, featured in the track that the album is named after ‘Bigger than the Biggest’, and EMX mixed the track, ‘Sope’ and directed the video. Currently, one of the songs titled ‘ Most High’ is trending on Youtube. Some of the A-list gospel artistes billed for the launch include Ken...

“Aunt, if table is ‘tabili’ in Yoruba, what do you call an ottoman then?” “Hmm, I’m not so sure” “But I thought you understood your local language?” Being bilingual is beautiful. I am bilingual, and have enjoyed its tremendous benefits. However, many bilingual speakers find themselves in the situation described above - attempting to describe something, or trying to translate a term or an expression into another language.  Bilingualism is the ability to speak more than one language. One of its beauties is that it gives you an edge over monolingual speakers (people who speak fluently only in one language). According to Jeffery Nelson, if you are bilingual, people automatically think you’re a genius!  Most children are capable of learning more than one language. Research has shown that one in five people over the age of five speak a language other than English at home. And, for such children, this comes with blessings such as good cognitive functions; ...

By  Seth Adam Smith   Having been married only a year and a half, I’ve recently come to the conclusion that marriage isn’t for me. Now before you start making assumptions, keep reading. I met my wife in high school when we were 15 years old. We were friends for  ten years  until…until we decided no longer wanted to be  just  friends. :) I strongly recommend that best friends fall in love. Good times will be had by all. Nevertheless, falling in love with my best friend did not prevent me from having certain fears and anxieties about getting married. The nearer Kim and I approached the decision to marry, the more I was filled with a paralyzing fear. Was I ready? Was I making the right choice? Was Kim the right person to marry? Would she make me happy? Then, one fateful night, I shared these thoughts and concerns with my dad. Perhaps each of us have moments in our lives when it feels like time slows down or the air becomes still and everything a...