Marriage’s Work-Out: 5 Must Haves
Hmmm, whatever
happened to the fluttery butterflies sensation your stomach? The one you had when you were. Now that you are married, it's no longer jittery! Suddenly, the butterflies stopped flying! Could it be that someone cut their wings? Could
you be that someone?
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Whatever happened to
that touch - that magical touch that sends butterflies down your stomach? Ah, it
just feels like a mere touch now. No sparkle. No magic. No butterflies in the
stomach!
Marriage is serious
work! Hard work. Real work. It’s surprising how the first few weeks of marriage
is beautiful and sweet. And then suddenly things start to get awry because, we
soon forget that we need to put as much (even more) energy, attention and time
that we put on other things and people on our marriage. Sadly, our jobs, extended families, friends, religion, and oftentimes children, get the most of us. And
sometimes, we often forget the primary LAW of marriage, which is:
For this cause (this reason;
the reason of MARRIAGE), shall a man leave his father and mother, and cleave (hold fast, be
smitten with, be joined) to his wife; And they
twain shall be one flesh (above all else;
above parents, children; jobs; money or anything or anyone): so
then they are no more twain, but one flesh. What therefore God hath joined
together, let not man (no man; no man’s ideas; job; no child; parents; friends, etc.)
put a-sunder.
Apparently, most
married couples on the brink of divorce, have either tossed this law into the
bin or are taking themselves and God for granted – because God is the prime mover of marriage, and whatever he creates is perfect!
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Great Marriage is Huge Work
I recently just discovered
five key ingredients that will keep every marriage going provided couples are
ready to put them into good use. Mind you, they are not easy to apply, their
application depends on having mutual agreement in wanting to make the union
work, having strong will and determination, and of course, the help of the Holy
Spirit.
1. Energy:
Many men and women get up every day with a determination to succeed and get
promotion at their places of work. The zeal to seal a deal burns in them like wildfire,
and they can even get insomnia to make that happen. But when it comes to their
marriages, that can wait, after all, marriage isn’t the thing bringing in the
money.
How
beautiful will it be if couples can exact the same vigour, drive, determination
on their marriages as they do on their jobs? Your marriage needs similar energy
and more to really really work.
2. Innovation:
Ideas, they say, rule the world. People, the world over, come up with diverse
ideas daily that catch global attention. Glory to God for giving us the ability
to innovate. But should innovation, inventions or creativity be limited to the
educational, career, religious, and governmental world alone? How about we get
creative with our partners – creative in the room, kitchen, in our friendship
style, in relating with one another, in our dates times, when we call ourselves
on phone – creative in our love life in general?
3. Time:
Time is money. Time is life. Time is love. For most people in a 9-5 kind of
occupation, time is that scarce commodity. But perhaps, the little, once in a
while time can be spent judiciously and deliberately with yours truly. No
children. No gadgets. No third-parties! Trust me, your other half will relish
the moment.
4. Attention:
Attention is key in any relationship. Tell me that someone that loves being
ignored, and I will tell you that the person either doesn’t exist or needs
psychiatric attention. Even the people that appear nonchalant silently crave
attention. When you give each other attention often, it shows you still matter
a great deal to one another. It shows you’re both important to one another. It
shows you are each other’s priority. And that way you have less problems.
5. Love:
You often hear people say “I love what I do” and truly you see the passion
they give to whatever they do because they love doing it. In the same manner,
they claim to love their spouses. They even tell them they love them, but at
the slightest form of provocation, they want out! Meanwhile, they won’t give up
that job they are passionate about even if the workload is much, or there’s a
difficult boss/colleague who poses a threat to them or they are not meeting
targets or they are losing customers. They will want to do all they can to breakthrough
because they are passionate about what they do.
“Love bears all
things”. Does the love you have for your spouse bear his/her
flaws, inadequacies, down times, illnesses, lacks, naggings, snoring, mess
and disorders, grammatical blunders, prayerlessness, stubbornness, etc.?
Love
is the most important ingredient in any marriage, because God Himself is that
LOVE. Rekindle it!
Examine your
relationship with your spouse today and see if all of these ingredients are
there. If not, find a way to add them. They must go along with you in your
marital journey, and they will do you and yours a world of good.
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